Awaken from DooM!!!

Been awhile since i wrote in this blog of mine..busy and trying to sort my life out..Now that I have a better view of the future ahead..i feel as though i have finally awoke from a ng and dreadfl nightmare...Thank God!

I have learnt to be a better individual, stronger and with a clearer view of my principals...it will never be easily gained...we need to go through hardship, hertship and heartache..and i'm not kidding when i say..alot of it...!

I feel blessed that God has always been by me though at times i forgot Him..but He never did..and never gave up on me...There was a time i felt hopeless and people started to point unnecessary fingers at me...i don't blame them as people will always believe others especially those close to them...but with that...i learnt to be stronger and keep my faith close to me...in the end...the truth became more vivid...fingers that once pointed at me..started to point elsewhere..why???

I have also realised to differ my true friends and those who just claim to be...Friends who were wiling to share my endless tears and fears..my struggles and my juggles..and were willing to turn then to smiles and laughter...hope and a better future...

I learnt at times it's best to always believe in ourselves besides doing our best we can in the right way...If we have done our very BEST..we must then have faith that God knows and will always ensure we receive the BEST... But then we must be prepared to accept that what we think is best for us actually isn't..because God has prepared something greater...we just need to trust Him...

I thank God for this test he has given me as it has made me realise many things in life and how i should make what's left of it..become better than before and to never regret what has happened to me..if this hadn't happened..i could never imagine my future ahead...monotonous i presume? God has given me a much meaningful life with many interesting things and people to meet...

Thus again, i am forever thankful to finally be awakened from this dreadful nightmare and doom....!!!

Footsteps on LOVE!!

Everyone desires to love...be loved. Everyone has their own way of showing love to their partner which I believe makes the individual unique and apart from others.
However, howTRUE can we be in LOVE? How long can we stay in LOVE? and how can we actually prove our LOVE?
I know a couple that has recently fell in LOVE...but the worse thing is that one of the person is still in a tied knot...What I can't believe is how can this person who claims to be responsible forget his responsibilities??? No matter how bad the partner is...this couple should atleast have respect for those around them. Thus, this is where we should consider and take the footsteps on LOVE as our bible.
In LOVE..everyone should feel happy and comfortable...not only the couple but everyone around them especially those they know. Take a step back and judge ourselves...are we too open? are we over board? have we hurt somebody?? anybody?? If we have...we should then ask...how?? how did we hurt this person? and how can we heal it? MOST couples ignore this fact... why? The answer is easy..love is blind and makes us do things we dare not before... even run away from those who TRULY LOVE us for who we are! Are we ashamed of those actions?? Unfortunately not many come to their senses on that until it is too late!
In LOVE...we should also consider our financial status. In this modern era of glitz and glam...material is the key of keeping the relationship. Someone used to say that money can't buy happiness..but to me..it sure can buy EVERYTHING except our ticket to HEAVEN! Don't believe me? Just look at today's Hottest issues??? pretty young girls marrying a husband the same age as their father's... To me...this type of marriage is purely based on material! To fall in LOVE and be true in LOVE..we should know how to handle our income...but most of all ensure that we are willing to work hard for a better living and always be thankful to GOD for the blessings He has given us...cause HE can take it back in a blink of an eye and make us pennyless!
In LOVE...respect is another vital key to hold. Each individual has their strength and weaknesses. Some may look like a lost puppy but yet has an ego higher that mount Everest and a temper that can kill seven in a blow! Yet, some may be the oppposite. With much respect of the person and by focusing on the person's strength..we can make the relationship a bliss! Give and take...that's what everyone agrees too.
Lastly, in LOVE there should always be TRUST! NO relationship can work without trust. why is trust so important? Well...can we be with our partner 24..7? The answer will definitely be NO! Therefore, we should place our trust in the person and in same time loyalty in ourselves and keep it intact. Without trust...we tend to have negative thoughts of our partner and this may lead to 'fitnah' subsequently, DISASTER!
Even if we' ve tried our very best to be the best yet fail to keep the relationship strong due to a third party...it is always best to show respect and guilt to our partner and keep the new LOVE low...as we never know GOD may turn our LOVE back one day and when that happens...nothing will prevail and nothing we do can make us the person we used to be in our partner's eyes...but leave only footsteps of our LOVE in history!

PERFECTION s FICTION!!

Since we were born..we always needed those around us to look and help us in becoming a better individual... without them, we tend to become blind of ourselves and make errors we never realise. We tend to notice other people's mistakes but unfortunately leave ours behind!..though there is that famous saying "we should always look ourselves in the mirror"...but again as ordinary human beings..we are bound to forget....

There are perfectionists (I considered myself one too) but under all the hard work in making everything look 'perfect' I overlooked the MOST important one of ALL...my love relationship! I thought it was 'perfect' (guess I didn't look in the mirror...)as everyone I knew told me we were made for each other and the chemistry was just right! I never realised that my trying to be 'perfect' just ended in doom and became fiction!

I know that I am now too late to make the U-turn I should have made...but looking back I wasn't shown a signboard or a signal that made me miss that point to return to the 'perfect' track! I won't blame others of my mistake but if I was given a chance to find a cure a... remedy..I wouldn't miss it for the world!

True it is, that couples are bound to hit a rock or wall here and there..but there must always be a reason, a cause, a factor for it to happen but...as they say...every problem comes with a solution...we just need to search for it..like a puzzle..where we need to be patient....So...we should never ever give up on the person we claim to love and care cause if we do..it means we are just trying to run away from the issue and are scared of challenges in life!However, if we are patient till we are able to solve it...I believe the knot we've tied will become stronger and better..as God has prepared us a rainbow at the end of the storm!

In conclusion, it is no doubt we try our very best in becoming the perfect soul mate but as human beings who are born with flaws in action...Perfection all in all becomes Fiction!

In-Laws..Outlaw!!

What a topic for me to write about..but yup..that's it! Based on experience(a nasty one I would say)..I've learnt a whole load of things about in-laws and how they can outlaw many decisions in our lives...That was what happened to me...but now I have realised and I feel lucky in a way it's over for me...

I have always been taught that we should never get ourselves involved in other people's business even our family's...but if we are too...it should be for the better..not the worse.. I was taken aback by my in-laws...before they seemed so caring and understanding..never it occured to me that they were all lies... this is what they say by back stabbing and hypocrites!

In-laws should be closer than family and whatever mishaps or mis..mis...should be dealt with among the family...learn to accept one another as who they are.. as everyone is born with imperfection...so..regardless of how well you try to be..people are bound to stumble here and there... that's part and parcial of life! Furthermore.. if matters arise and someone is hurt due to some mistake no matter how small..it should be handled and solved quickly before matters get bigger and before we meet a dead end to the point of no return...

In-laws should play a vital role in making their new family member at ease and as comfortable as they could around them...and be patient with them as it takes time for a person to adapt to a new environment and new culture...Don't ever blame or seek their weaknesses as it will only make them feel unaccepted and distant...

In-laws should always be open to criticism, ideas and whatever confrontations made no matter from the old or from the young..this will not only bind the knot stronger but trust and happiness will become evident as years go by...NEVER keep it bottled as one day the bottle may not be able to hold and be closed thus, spills..and doom will arise...

Believe me...if ever I have in-laws again..i will make them love me all round and never will they want to let me go...amen...

happily ever after...was just a dream...

Most fairy tales end with couples living happily ever after...I too was once in a fairy tale of my own....but I guess fairy tales are just tales...and dreams remain dreams....I once found my 'Prince Charming'...all that I thought he could be and would be...everyone told us we were a PERFECT MATCH! I thought so too....until I found that dreams are just for sleeping and fairy tales are for kids!
I may have my own set of draw backs..tomboyish..egoistic..ugly..skinny...and just plain ordinary..(but someone i love once told me he loved my natural beauty)...with a rather bitter history to match...thus...i should have kept my feet firm on the ground than rather letting it fly off the ground....

I was swept off my feet by my 'Prince Charming' in my fairy tale...but I didn't read my own story til the end cause somehow I thought I was sure it was how all fairy tales should be...as the bond seemed strong with the arrivals of 2 beautiful children along the path....but I was wrong....

Now....i'm trying to find my strength to go on and pull myself stronger together....to become someone independent and reliable...a loving mother to my children..other than that...let Allah decide for me...

I once went thru Hell...All alone with no one to care for me...I learnt the hard way to survive...When I met my 'Prince Charming' he promised the sun and the moon and the whole universe that made me melt and trust him...in his 'shining armour'....I gave myself to him and believed that my Hell had past....again...I was wrong...

I know I am wrong..but who in this world is perfect? why blame and punish the person who once claimed the person we love so much? where have all the promises gone? how can love be gone so fast with the wind? and how can someone forget the beautiful little faces of his own flesh and blood? Why can't we just forgive and forget? if we claim to loved the person never give up on them...always keep a little room of faith that they will become better and tie the bond stronger....but I have learnt...love blinds...and once blinded...everything in the past..all the memories sweet and beautiful...disappear...and never to thought of again....until it is too late...