PERFECTION s FICTION!!

Since we were born..we always needed those around us to look and help us in becoming a better individual... without them, we tend to become blind of ourselves and make errors we never realise. We tend to notice other people's mistakes but unfortunately leave ours behind!..though there is that famous saying "we should always look ourselves in the mirror"...but again as ordinary human beings..we are bound to forget....

There are perfectionists (I considered myself one too) but under all the hard work in making everything look 'perfect' I overlooked the MOST important one of ALL...my love relationship! I thought it was 'perfect' (guess I didn't look in the mirror...)as everyone I knew told me we were made for each other and the chemistry was just right! I never realised that my trying to be 'perfect' just ended in doom and became fiction!

I know that I am now too late to make the U-turn I should have made...but looking back I wasn't shown a signboard or a signal that made me miss that point to return to the 'perfect' track! I won't blame others of my mistake but if I was given a chance to find a cure a... remedy..I wouldn't miss it for the world!

True it is, that couples are bound to hit a rock or wall here and there..but there must always be a reason, a cause, a factor for it to happen but...as they say...every problem comes with a solution...we just need to search for it..like a puzzle..where we need to be patient....So...we should never ever give up on the person we claim to love and care cause if we do..it means we are just trying to run away from the issue and are scared of challenges in life!However, if we are patient till we are able to solve it...I believe the knot we've tied will become stronger and better..as God has prepared us a rainbow at the end of the storm!

In conclusion, it is no doubt we try our very best in becoming the perfect soul mate but as human beings who are born with flaws in action...Perfection all in all becomes Fiction!

In-Laws..Outlaw!!

What a topic for me to write about..but yup..that's it! Based on experience(a nasty one I would say)..I've learnt a whole load of things about in-laws and how they can outlaw many decisions in our lives...That was what happened to me...but now I have realised and I feel lucky in a way it's over for me...

I have always been taught that we should never get ourselves involved in other people's business even our family's...but if we are too...it should be for the better..not the worse.. I was taken aback by my in-laws...before they seemed so caring and understanding..never it occured to me that they were all lies... this is what they say by back stabbing and hypocrites!

In-laws should be closer than family and whatever mishaps or mis..mis...should be dealt with among the family...learn to accept one another as who they are.. as everyone is born with imperfection...so..regardless of how well you try to be..people are bound to stumble here and there... that's part and parcial of life! Furthermore.. if matters arise and someone is hurt due to some mistake no matter how small..it should be handled and solved quickly before matters get bigger and before we meet a dead end to the point of no return...

In-laws should play a vital role in making their new family member at ease and as comfortable as they could around them...and be patient with them as it takes time for a person to adapt to a new environment and new culture...Don't ever blame or seek their weaknesses as it will only make them feel unaccepted and distant...

In-laws should always be open to criticism, ideas and whatever confrontations made no matter from the old or from the young..this will not only bind the knot stronger but trust and happiness will become evident as years go by...NEVER keep it bottled as one day the bottle may not be able to hold and be closed thus, spills..and doom will arise...

Believe me...if ever I have in-laws again..i will make them love me all round and never will they want to let me go...amen...

happily ever after...was just a dream...

Most fairy tales end with couples living happily ever after...I too was once in a fairy tale of my own....but I guess fairy tales are just tales...and dreams remain dreams....I once found my 'Prince Charming'...all that I thought he could be and would be...everyone told us we were a PERFECT MATCH! I thought so too....until I found that dreams are just for sleeping and fairy tales are for kids!
I may have my own set of draw backs..tomboyish..egoistic..ugly..skinny...and just plain ordinary..(but someone i love once told me he loved my natural beauty)...with a rather bitter history to match...thus...i should have kept my feet firm on the ground than rather letting it fly off the ground....

I was swept off my feet by my 'Prince Charming' in my fairy tale...but I didn't read my own story til the end cause somehow I thought I was sure it was how all fairy tales should be...as the bond seemed strong with the arrivals of 2 beautiful children along the path....but I was wrong....

Now....i'm trying to find my strength to go on and pull myself stronger together....to become someone independent and reliable...a loving mother to my children..other than that...let Allah decide for me...

I once went thru Hell...All alone with no one to care for me...I learnt the hard way to survive...When I met my 'Prince Charming' he promised the sun and the moon and the whole universe that made me melt and trust him...in his 'shining armour'....I gave myself to him and believed that my Hell had past....again...I was wrong...

I know I am wrong..but who in this world is perfect? why blame and punish the person who once claimed the person we love so much? where have all the promises gone? how can love be gone so fast with the wind? and how can someone forget the beautiful little faces of his own flesh and blood? Why can't we just forgive and forget? if we claim to loved the person never give up on them...always keep a little room of faith that they will become better and tie the bond stronger....but I have learnt...love blinds...and once blinded...everything in the past..all the memories sweet and beautiful...disappear...and never to thought of again....until it is too late...